We don't judge you. You judge yourself. Don't be too hard on yourself.

Greetings!

One day years ago, I lost my cool and reacted to a situation.  Afterwards, I was troubled by how I had acted.  In my mind, I kept going over what had happened, and how I should have conducted myself.  I criticized myself, and mentally said, "Sorry, teachers and angels, I must have disappointed you."  Then I 'heard'

       "We don't judge you.  You judge yourself.  Don't be too hard on yourself."

Indeed, over the years, I learn my guides and angels are just here to help me learn my lessons.  If I haven't learned a lesson, they bring the lesson again.  They are always patient and loving.  I also learn to be gentle and compassionate towards myself as well as others.  Below is another story that helps me see from another angle of truth.

A dear one suddenly acted distant and angry.  I sensed he was not happy.  He had always kept things to himself.  I tried to be patient.  As this went on for a couple of days, I concluded from his angry words that he was angry at me.  One morning while taking a shower, I could not help but thought I had failed even though I had tried my best to love him.  Then I 'heard'

                                     He is not angry at you

                                     He is angry at himself

                                     He just expresses his anger to you,         

                                     but he is not angry towards you

Coincidentally, he called and apologized to me later that morning.  He told me what had been bothering him.  It was true he was angry at himself.

Some may say, "How can we look at those that express their anger towards us with love and compassion?"  Have you ever been filled with anger, jealousy, hatred, or resentment before?  It doesn't feel good, isn't it?  When one is blinded by anger, he is the first one to suffer from the fire of his own wrath.  Life is not about who is right or wrong.  We are all connected.  To look at others with love and compassion does not mean we condone what they do.  It means we do not judge them, and understand they are going through their lessons of life.  Sometimes we just have to let go and do not take whatever happens personally.

It is important for us to pay attention to our thoughts or in other words to live consciously.  The sooner we observe unwholesome thoughts rise in our mind and replace them with positive thoughts, the merrier our life will be.

Many blessings,
Q of D