One day, many at the circle tried to help a friend to look at her problems in life from a different perspective. However, it was obvious this friend was not ready to accept the advice at the time. She joined the circle not long ago ***. She was angry and sad because she felt her coworkers as well as her family had not treated her right.
When the circle was over, she looked lost and frustrated. I looked at her with compassion. I walked to her and told her about the good in her. Then I left.
When we met again, she said what I said that morning had possibly saved her life. She told me what happened.
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After I left, the friend stayed behind to chat with others in the circle. Suddenly, she found Cindy** stood in front of her. (** Cindy used to be a regular at the circle, but had not come for some weeks. That morning was the first time they met each other.) Right away, Cindy said the friend was the most negative person she had ever met. For the next few minutes, Cindy blurted out many more stuff about her such as she was so negative in this incident and selfish in another. The friend stood there in shock. She could not utter a word in response to what Cindy said.
When Cindy finished talking, the friend walked out of the center in a daze. She got into her car and drove away. In her mind, she kept thinking she must really be a very bad person, or how else someone that met her for the first time said that of her. She felt terrible physically and emotionally. She could not focus on her driving. Just then, she had a flashback of what I said. She thought, "I can't be that bad! Q of D (i.e. me) has said there is good in me!" Taking comfort in the good in herself, she was able to recover from the shock. She drove home safely.
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I knew Cindy. She used to come to the circle regularly. She was known for her clairvoyance and psychic gift. We loved her. Sometimes she seemed to have a hard time dealing with the information she received and what to do with them. I believed she never intended to hurt the friend. She probably saw lots of images in her mind eye that day, and blurted them out. Perhaps she thought it might 'force' the friend to examine her attitude and change by relating what she saw.
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After I left, the friend stayed behind to chat with others in the circle. Suddenly, she found Cindy** stood in front of her. (** Cindy used to be a regular at the circle, but had not come for some weeks. That morning was the first time they met each other.) Right away, Cindy said the friend was the most negative person she had ever met. For the next few minutes, Cindy blurted out many more stuff about her such as she was so negative in this incident and selfish in another. The friend stood there in shock. She could not utter a word in response to what Cindy said.
When Cindy finished talking, the friend walked out of the center in a daze. She got into her car and drove away. In her mind, she kept thinking she must really be a very bad person, or how else someone that met her for the first time said that of her. She felt terrible physically and emotionally. She could not focus on her driving. Just then, she had a flashback of what I said. She thought, "I can't be that bad! Q of D (i.e. me) has said there is good in me!" Taking comfort in the good in herself, she was able to recover from the shock. She drove home safely.
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I knew Cindy. She used to come to the circle regularly. She was known for her clairvoyance and psychic gift. We loved her. Sometimes she seemed to have a hard time dealing with the information she received and what to do with them. I believed she never intended to hurt the friend. She probably saw lots of images in her mind eye that day, and blurted them out. Perhaps she thought it might 'force' the friend to examine her attitude and change by relating what she saw.
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Each one of us learns life lessons at one's own pace. Sometimes our words can help or uplift others. At other times, our words may hurt or even destroy others. To say the right words at the right time can be miracle in the making. At other times, the same words may either fall into the deaf ears or be the cause of irritation. We have to be mindful of what we say. It serves us well to remember we all have our own shortcomings, and always treat others as how we want others to treat us (which to me is love and respect).
When I talked to the friend before I left, I did not know she would have such an experience.
Each one of us learns life lessons at one's own pace. Sometimes our words can help or uplift others. At other times, our words may hurt or even destroy others. To say the right words at the right time can be miracle in the making. At other times, the same words may either fall into the deaf ears or be the cause of irritation. We have to be mindful of what we say. It serves us well to remember we all have our own shortcomings, and always treat others as how we want others to treat us (which to me is love and respect).
When I talked to the friend before I left, I did not know she would have such an experience.
In retrospect, I can see the Grace of God in this incident. The experience may seem to involve only the three of us, but it is our experience since we are interconnected. May love always be in all that we do.
Many blessings,
Q of D
Many blessings,
Q of D
*** All of us at the circle usually hugged one another after the circle was over, but for weeks this friend always walked past me as if she did not see me. I let it be. I understood some people were not comfortable with those that looked different from them. A week earlier, I had taken the first step to greet her because I could sense her frustration was up to the rim. I walked to her and gave her a hug. She began to cry, and continued crying for quite a while. Afterward, she looked embarrassed. She said she did not understand why she cried.
**not the real name
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