Tuesday, April 12, 2016

The U.S. Citizenship Examination

Greetings!

A relative visited us yesterday.  He said he had submitted an application for U.S. Citizenship a month or two ago.  He expected to receive a letter with the time and date for an interview soon.  He asked me to go with him for the U.S. Citizenship examination.  He had lived in U.S.A. for over 20 years, and was qualified to take the Chinese version of the exam.  He said he had studied all the questions and answers.

Today I went online to download the Chinese and English versions of the exam.  Our relative was the one to take the citizenship examination, but I must know both versions so that I could translate correctly.  Some Chinese who did not speak English assumed those who spoke English could easily translate English into Chinese or vice versa.  It was not the case at all.

Once I was in a formal setting where an appointed translator was present.  The translator (An Asian who spoke many Asian languages) might have graduated in USA with a nursing degree, but she was neither proficient in English nor Chinese.  Her translations were totally wrong.  Eventually, I had to speak up.  It was then the Asian woman confirmed what I said was true, but she was too embarrassed to admit she could not translate the languages.  It was the most awkward situation I was in.

I fully understood I was far from proficiency in the English language.  For instance, before I came to U.S.A., I did not know anything about cars.  I knew neither the components of a car in Chinese nor English.  When our first car kept stalling at traffic lights and crossroads, we brought it back to the dealership.  However, after many visits, the problem remained.  One day, I read an article about car problems and maintenance in the newspaper.  I learned the problem might be caused by a crack in the carburetor (a new word to me).  We went back to the car dealership and asked them to check the carburetor.  There was indeed a hairline crack.  They said they did not check the carburetor earlier because there should not be any crack since it was a new car.  After that visit, the problem was fixed.

Our relative told us his wife took the English version of the exam. a few years ago, but she failed twice.  She now resigned to wait a few more years so that she could qualify to take the exam. in Chinese.  It was then I recalled I had offered to help her, but she declined.  She spoke some English, and worked in a place where many of her coworkers were Americans.  She said her coworkers had promised to repeatedly ask her the questions on the exam.  She was sure she would pass with flying colors.  It might be she had come across an examiner who was very strict, or she was very nervous at the time of the examination.

Our relative was surprised to hear that my husband passed the exam. in English on his first trial.  Even back then (30+ years ago), many of those who knew my husband were surprised.  Well, lots of hard work were involved, and it also had much to do with my husband's determination to bring his side of the family (his siblings and their families) to USA.
Every night, my husband came home from work around 11 pm.  After he ate, we went to work.  I taught him English from the basic lower and upper case letters.  Then we moved onto simple English words such as car, cat, house, drive, walk, and work.  I had a list of 108 questions.  I repeatedly asked him 8 to 10 questions at a time.  I used different wordings to ask him the same questions.  Later, I recorded the questions with a recorder.  I wanted him to pay attention to the question or what he heard.  I came up with the possible sentences that he might be asked to write.  For examples, I drive a car to work, I live with my wife / family in a house, and I am a good cook.
I did not go with my husband to his citizenship exam. interview.  I stayed home to take care of our sons.  Two of his friends went with him.  Later, I learned his friends had to stay outside of the room.  He was alone in the room with the examiner.  He said the examiner was kind and patient.  He had no problem answering the questions that we had worked on, but stumbled a bit when the examiner asked him to answer the questions on the application forms.  (I did not expect that.)  When the examiner said a sentence and asked him to write it down, my husband was relieved he knew the words!
After our relative left, my husband said he had forgotten almost everything that he had learned for the examination.  Like him, I forgot some of the questions and answers too.  I definitely needed to go over them before I went with the relative for his appointment.

It snowed on Sunday.  Today is sunny and bright.  Wherever you are, may you feel joy and peace!

Many blessings,
Q of D

P.S.  Every time the relative came to our place, I asked him 8 to 10 questions.  He passed the citizenship examination with ease.  

Saturday, April 9, 2016

CD & books by Deepak - gifts from my loved ones

Greetings!

Today must be my lucky day.  I receive four gifts from my loved ones.

The Secret of Healing - Meditations for Transformation & Higher Consciousness CD

The Book of Secrets - Unlocking the Hidden Dimensions of Your Life

Reinventing the Body, Resurrecting the Soul  - How to Create a New You

The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire - Harnessing the Infinite Power of Coincidence

The CD and books are all by Deepak Chopra, a wonderful spiritual teacher.  Every now and then, Deepak Chopra and Oprah facilitate free 21-Day online meditations. Currently, there is a 21-Day meditation on Shedding the Weight : Mind, Body and Spirit.  However, today is the 20th day, the second last day.  If you are interested, please go to their website to check out their meditation CD and books.

Why do I recommend meditations facilitate by Oprah and Deepak?  I can feel energy. Every time I log in, wonderful energy begins to pulsate around my crown and my whole body.  I believe it has everything to do with the intention and energy of the loving brothers and sisters at the Deepak Center.

We can find many meditations and healing music online, but the energy of each may not be the same.  I often go online to listen to the messages channeled by a spiritual teacher from U.K.  The energy she channels through is very loving and powerful. There is another person who reads the transcript and repeats her message.  This person's voice was clear, yet the energy is not the same.

To my loved ones, thank you for the gifts.

To my friends, may all of us embrace life with ease and joy (the centering thought of today's meditation) !

Love,
Q of D    
   

Thursday, March 31, 2016

INTENTION, racist terms, and politically correct racial terms

Greetings!

Do you get upset when people call you using a racist term?  Do you want to correct others every time you hear people talk about other races using politically incorrect racial terms?

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A Chinese couple with their baby in a stroller took a walk near where they lived.  They walked past a building (a senior activity center).  Quite a few older men and women were chatting outside.  A man asked loudly, "Are you Jap or Chink?"  The young Chinese woman knew very well the man called them by old racist terms.  Peacefully, she said, "We are Chinese."  Some women walked forward to look at their baby, and a few men followed.  They surrounded the baby.  Their faces brightened up.  They said "how adorable" and "what a handsome boy".   As they were adoring the baby, they began to have a conversation with the couple.  It was a while before the couple could continue on their walk.

In time, the seniors said "here comes the Chinese couple" when they saw them walked by.

After their second son was born, people often stopped the Chinese couple while they were shopping in stores.  They asked if the boys were twins.  Occasionally, they asked the couple to stay where they were so that they could ask their friends who were somewhere in the store to come to see the boys.  Sometimes the husband did not want to wait.  The wife always said they had time.  To her, it was a joy to see the joy on people's faces as they looked at her sons.  They asked where the couple came from.  It was a simple conversation, yet in treating each other with friendliness, everybody walked away with a happy smile.

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Yes, the above was my experience.

Some people (particularly the older generation) might use politically incorrect racial terms because those were the terms they had learned while they were growing up. However, they might not hold any animosity towards other people.  At the same time, people might use politically correct terms, yet they had racist views within.

On a few occasions, I heard my Chinese friends / relatives used old racist terms while talking about other races.  To me, it was all about intention.  For example, Mr. Lee talked about his American friend with politically incorrect racial term.  Then he said, "We hang out from time to time.  I talk to him in broken English, and he understands me well.  We help each other out at work.  He is a good man.  We are friends."  He said his American friend did not find the racial term offensive.  Instead, he took it with good spirit.  Sometimes he introduced himself to other Chinese using that racist term.

Of course, just like any other race, there were some Chinese that had racist views.  I did not feel the need to correct others every time I heard people using racist terms.  If they had been using those racist terms all their lives, they would not change because of a few words of mine.  My approach to a few of my friends / relatives that had negative views of other races was l listened to them with patience.  When they were done talking, I shared with them the good I saw in other people.  They listened with their eyes opened.  A lot of times, they actually agreed that what I said was true.  At times they even recalled the good about other race from their own past experiences.

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Have a harmonious April!

Many blessings,
Q of D