Saturday, May 14, 2011

We are all tools in the divine plans

Here are some words of wisdom from my guide.

An entry in my journal dated 2/2/2005.

Sometimes we may find ourselves in a situation 'we do not ask for' and 'wonder aloud why is this happening'.

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We are all tools in the divine plans.  He or she may appear in our life to bring about or intensify a lesson and equally possible he or she may be there to bring relief or joy in a stressful situation.  Likewise, we may appear in other people's lives having the similar influence or effect.  We may come into some one's life to bring peace and joy or as a tool for a lesson / challenge for one to learn / overcome.

In some cases, if upon self-examination we find no fault on our part in causing others unloving behavior, we should simply detach ourselves from their negativity.  He or she can be going through an intensified lesson, and we should not be bothered by his / her adverse reactions.

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Sunday, May 8, 2011

Happy Mother's Day to all the loving mothers & grandmothers

Greetings!

My dear mother moved on from this physical realm about 27 years ago.  She still lives in my heart.  I know she is pretty much aware of what is going on in my life.

In her presence, I knew love.  She treated others with kindness and gave generously with whatever she had.  In her gentleness, I saw strength.  In our culture and during her time, my mother did not carry the word 'love' on her lips as most modern parents did.  However, her life was / is love.  While I was growing up, I heard many of my friends complained that life was boring.  They longed for someone or something to make them feel better.  By then, life was not boring to me for I lived in the loving presence of my mother.

After my mother moved on, I felt part of me died.  For 3 years, I cried whenever I thought of her.  I dreamed of her often.  In the dreams, she was kind and gentle just as when she was alive.  However, upon waking up, I would cry and cry for I missed her physical presence.  One morning, this thought came to me as I woke up -

                 how sad it would be for my mother to see me like that;
                 she loves me, and would not want me to feel sad all the time; 
                 I am a mother, and my sons are my priority now.  

With this realization, I changed.

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                              The Story of the Windup Musical Santa Head

My mother used to send toys and clothes to our sons.  One of the toys was a windup musical Santa head which we still had over the years.  In the second half of 2003, the restaurant business was getting worse and worse.  Even though by then I had come to know my guides and angels, I was still overwhelmed by the situation.  One night (10/20/03), my husband and I were sitting in the living room.  Suddenly, the music of the Santa head came on.  We looked at each other.  The toy was on a desk, and nobody had touched it!  My husband said: "Your Mom is here."  I walked over to the Santa head.  I held it with both of my hands.  Tears filled my eyes.  "Mom, are you really here?  I love you."  I felt my Mom was telling me things were looking up from now on.  However, I doubted if that was my imagination.  So I unwound the toy completely to make sure if ever the music came on again, it was truly a sign.

In the morning of 11/3/03, I walked into the living room.  The Santa head music came on for a very short second!  Then the phone rang.  It was for my older son.  He was asked to go for a job interview.  He worked in a store as a cashier.  He had graduated from a university for quite some time, but could not find a good job due to the slow economy.  Hearing the music, my heart was filled with hope.  I prayed for Mom to enter my dream that night as a confirmation, and she did.

During the early hours of 11/10/03, I talked to God.  When I prayed, I always turned off the light and closed my eyes.  However, this night I was in a playful mood.  I said: "God, can I talk to you tonight with my eyes open?"  I smiled and looked around waiting for God's answer.  Suddenly, I saw the VCR green light blink 6 - 7 times!  "It cannot be!  There is a tape inside.  The time programming of the VCR is on!" I thought.  Then it stopped blinking.  I was amazed.  I put on my eyeglasses.  I said the same words again (i.e. God can I ...)   In a short while, I saw the green light blink again!  I tried for a 3rd time, but it did not blink.

In the morning, I told my son what happened, but I could not make the VCR green light blink to prove my story.  Before I left for work, I saw the green light blink!  I called out to my son to come and see.  At that very moment, the phone rang.  My son answered the phone.  I waited by his side for somehow I thought the blinking green light was a good sign.  Indeed, it was.  He was offered the job!  He was asked to report to his new job within a week.  Coincidentally, his first day at work was also my mother's birthday (lunar calendar)!  About a month later, my younger son who graduated from college in April 2003 also got an offer for a good job.  We sold the restaurant in 2004.  2003 was like the darkest night before dawn.  Many dramatic things happened.  It was only by the love and grace of the Loving Divine (God, guides, angels, and our loved ones especially my mother) that we survived.  

To my mother, I love you and thank you.  She is still with us.  Love lives.  Love is

Happy Mother's Day to all the loving mothers and grandmothers!

Love and blessings,
Q of D

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Love! Love! Love! Just love him and nothing else. Simply love him.

Greetings!

One day years ago, my son came to ask me for my honest opinion on something.  I gave him my honest opinion, but what I said was not what he wanted to hear.  As usual, he continued by asking more questions.  He already knew my answers to those questions since we had gone through similar discussions many times.  For examples, "Mom, what is wrong with showing off?" and "Why do you say money is not the most important thing in life?"  Eventually, I said I had other things to do for this conversation had been going on for too long.  I told him it would be up to him if he wanted to show off.  He would not stop at that, and I refused to say another word.  He began to say things that he knew would provoke me.  Finally, I had enough.  I kind of lifted myself off the chair.  I was about to stand up and give him an earful of what I had to say.  At that very moment, a man's voice came through urgently loud and clear *** -

           Love!  Love!  Love!  Just love him and nothing else.  Simply love him.

Immediately, peace came over me.  I sat down.  I smiled.  I realized I had lost my peace, and reacted to the situation again.  My son was very surprised for he clearly saw I was about to explode, but completely changed in an instant.  In my heart, I sent him a message: "I love you no matter what.  I love you, Son."  Quietly, he walked away.

My son was very quiet for a couple of hours.  He washed all the dishes, pots and pans in the sink.  Later, he came to give me a hug.  He said: "Mom, I love you."

Months later, mother and son got into a similar situation again.  He kept on pushing my limit.  I was about to react.  Then I recalled the "Love! Love! Love!" incident.  I burst out laughing.  I said, "Wow, you are such a good teacher!"  My son also realized we almost fell into the same old pattern.  He laughed too.

In recent years, we can really talk, listen, and end our discussion without hard feelings.  Life is a mind journey.  Our way of looking at life or our attitude towards life pretty much shapes the life we live.  Sometimes when we change our way of handling things / our view of others, we also change the outcome of a situation / relationship.  From the human point of view, "Love! Love! Love! Just love him and nothing else. Simply love himis a tall order.  However, it serves to remind me to look at others (not just my loved ones) with love and compassion no matter what.  I was very grateful for my spirit guide's timely intervention that day.  It was truly an experience of transformation.

One day not long after I moved here, I shared this experience with a small group of people at church **.  At the end, I said: "Sometimes when we change our attitude and look at others with love, we also change the situation."  When I went to church again, a woman came to me.  With tears in her eyes, she said: "One day, I had to go to a place to talk to a man about a project.  The man had an attitude.  I found him very difficult to deal with.  Suddenly, I remembered what you said.  I changed my view of him, and mentally sent him love.  He changed and became very cooperative.  Thank you!"

I will sign off for now.  Thank you for reading my blog.  It is in sharing we learn and connect.  I would love to hear your stories too.

Peace,
Q of D

*** That was the second and the last time I heard my spirit guide's voice loud and clear.  The first time was in the last quarter of 1999 when I was overwhelmed by life's difficulties.  Since I knew nothing about guides and angels, I tried to put it behind me. In time, I learned we all had our own spirit guides and angels.  Most of the time, I perceived their guidance as a knowing or thought that came to me.  In my posts, I chose to use the words 'I heard' or 'thoughts that came to me'.  In the last couple of years, they did not respond to my request for answers as often as I wanted.  Through dreams, they told me the preparation was completed; they would always be with me, and it was time for me to take charge of my life.

** It was a Unity Church (not the small church I called my spiritual home).  (Re My Big Moment of Embarrassment )

Sunday, May 1, 2011

Treat others as how you want to be treated

Greetings!

Like most of you, I have my shortcomings.  At times, I react to people or situations adversely.  Over the years, I have learned to live more consciously.  Below is a lesson I learned years ago.  I choose to use the present tense as how it appears in my journal.

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There are times I get upset over how others treat me especially on the occasions that I feel I have done nothing to deserve such rudeness or hostility.  I just realize tonight that I have missed the point.

            It is not about how others treat us, but how we choose to treat others.   

I choose to treat others with love and respect which is also how I want to be treated.  This is my choice.  Even if others have wronged ** me, I should not get overly upset over it.  Many people act out of their discriminating mind (at times me too).  To maintain the peace of mind, we have to look at others or situations objectively.  We must not take others offense or negative behavior personally.  There must be times my words or actions are the causes of discomfort to others too(** Wronged me is only a matter of speech.  No words can really hurt us unless we give them power.)

To maintain the peace of mind is something we must work on constantly.  As we keep working on it, the peace within will eventually come through for peace is our true nature. 


Love and Peace,
Q of D