For about three years, I joined a healing prayer service circle every Tuesday. Sometimes a friend brought with her a deck of 'A Course In Miracle' cards. She would ask one of us to pick a card. Then we would contemplate briefly** over the meaning of the card. (**We were there to be of service. This was not a meet up group for discussion.)
One day this card was drawn.
Every relationship is a lesson in love
Immediately a brother said, "But relationship sucks!" (i.e. bad, difficult, displeasing)
Unexpected of what I heard, I said, "What?!"
He went on to say, "Relationship sucks because no matter how hard you try to love, there are always a few you just don't like them."
I smiled and let it go. In our non-awakened human mind, it was really not easy to like or love everyone as the brother said. Meanwhile, a sister started lecturing him that we should love no matter what. It was true. However, we had known this brother for years. He was a long time spiritual seeker, and had given his time freely for good causes. He said what he said to express his honest opinion of how challenging the lesson of love 'is'.
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I like this brother's honesty. It is a good thing he does not pretend that he is already there as the awakened ones who can love as love is. Thus he is not too harsh on himself, and can view his response to relationships objectively. I have known a few who easily give out advices such as we should love our enemies as ourselves and we should love our spouse more than ourselves. It is easy to say something that sounds good, but, oftentimes it is easier said than done. I have seen the same people having a hard time maintaining their own peace and relationships. They constantly judge themselves if they are loving enough, and at times judge others with their measure of love without realizing it.
Every relationship is unique. We cannot generalize all relationships. In our human mind, we are troubled by our relationship with others from time to time. How do we love? Though love is the key, yet there is not one solution for all. Sometimes it is to love with patience. Sometimes it is to love enough to let go. At others times, we need to take a step back and think it over. We have to remember love includes loving ourselves. If you have time, please click to view the following posts on relationships. I have found comfort in these words of wisdom.
To Let Go Is...........
Guide's words of wisdom on relationship
You don't necessary have to like or dislike someone
Every relationship is a lesson in love. Let us keep this in our mind, and may love guide us through in all that we do. Amen.
Many blessings,
Q of D
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